3 Ways To Find Your Focus

Friday, oh glorious Friday!

For most of us, Friday symbolizes all that is free and good left in the world – it marks the triumphant (albeit exhaustive) end of the day-in-day-out tedious drudgery of the work week.

Friday is the day we are able to collectively stick it to the man, shouting with exuberance, “You don’t own me anymore! …At least not until Monday.”

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Pretty safe to say generally, we tend to give less fucks on Fridays in particular.

Usually by the time Friday rolls around, everyone is checked out mentally and emotionally. The weekend that we have waited the entire week for (or more likely, since last Sunday afternoon, let’s be honest) is so close we can almost taste it.

“I’m going to be extremely productive and go above and beyond this Friday!” said no one ever.

The Problem With TGIF Culture

Isn’t it a bit telling about our culture that the majority of our population is so incredibly discontented with our jobs that we have to wait for the weekend to truly live?

It is sad to think something we spend at least a third of our lives doing is so utterly unfulfilling and pedantic. Each of us only has a limited time here on Earth, and we are squandering it doing things we don’t even care about.

The simple fact is that most of our jobs don’t resonate with us.

They are draining, exhaustive, and soul sucking. We throw away an entire 24 hours of the finite time we have every single week, only to spend Fridays living in a mind-simulated future.

I, for one, certainly don’t want to spend the rest of my days as a miserable robot in a job I can’t stand, unhappy, and not living up to my fullest potential.

So What Can We Do About It?

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Quitting our jobs without a second thought is something that is not practical or feasible for most of us.

But the fact remains – wasting 24 hours is something we simply cannot afford if we truly desire to live to our fullest.

So what can we focus on in order to tap into our greatest potential and create a life that we are actually excited to live?


GIFT – Grow Intense Focus Today!

TGIF reordered spells GIFT. Coincidence?

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I personally don’t believe in coincidences. The Universe is rarely so lazy.

This Friday I want us all to remind ourselves, every day is a new opportunity to reevaluate where we are at and adjust our focus.

If we are unhappy and unsatisfied, if we don’t find that life has any meaning, if we feel we don’t have any real purpose of passion – the responsibility to change our current state is entirely up to us.

I want to tell you that living a life you love is not only possible, but it is essential to your health!

The 3 F’s To Finding Your Focus

1. Feel

How does our life at this current moment make us feel and why does it make us feel that way?

Are you excruciatingly bored at work? Are you experiencing a lot of anger or resentment towards a circumstance or person?

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Emotions can tell us so much about our environment. Once we identify the emotions we are feeling, we can begin to recognize the triggers that influence the negative thoughts associated with them.

What can we change in order to refocus our attention on what truly matters? What were you interested in as a child before your parents, school, and society taught you what was socially expected and acceptable? How did the response your primary caregivers had to your dreams make you feel?

Learn more about your inner world to discover what makes you feel passionate and excited about life.

When we understand ourselves well enough to know what we enjoy doing, we can start to clear some space in each day to dedicate to the things that give us satisfaction.

2. Flow

What helps us reach that state of flow?

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Flow state is the feeling we get when we are in the zone – the energetic, enthralled state of being totally immersed in the present moment. In this state, we forget about external worries and pressures. All that exists is what we are doing in the now.

This could be any activity from painting with watercolors, giving your friend sound counsel, playing field hockey, finally cracking a complex mathematics problem, to cooking a meal from scratch.

Whatever it is that helps you achieve that state of bliss – follow it.

Make time for it. Decide what you love to do, and actually do it.

3. Freedom

What environments, people, activities are we around when we feel the most free?

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This is such a critical question to ask ourselves because it shows us the situations our heart is truly present and connected to.

If we live our lives feeling trapped and stuck with people, places, and things that don’t resonate with us, we will all look back with regret, sooner or later.

Find what feels good. Find what you love. Pursue it relentlessly with all your might.

Redefining Fridays

We can use Fridays as a check-in point with ourselves and examine where we are on this grand adventure called the human condition.

Through intense focus and radical action we achieve results. This isn’t a path that will be easy. There will be ups and downs – it’s a pretty intense roller coaster ride at times! But I can promise from personal experience that it will be worth it!


We only have this one life to live – Let’s actually start living it, friends!


What helps you achieve flow state and find your focus? Share your experiences with other readers in the comments section below!

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